Then they meet someone else, someone who is so different and they enter this person’s life with caution. Be open and curious. Initially rejecting the unfamiliar. You cannot love someone if you’re not willing to know them better. 1. It doesn’t matter if they have a higher salary than you or that they come from a prestigious university. wikiHow is where trusted research and expert knowledge come together. How to behave How to demand someone who’s “guarded” to open up. _g1.setAttribute('src', _g1.getAttribute('data-src') ); Have an exit strategy if you need to leave. You don’t have to agree with them, but by talking you can try to understand or tolerate where they’re coming from. Most importantly, it will teach you practical techniques to activate those triggers in your man so you can build a successful long-lasting relationship. Minor flaws often don’t really matter over the long term. I hope you have enjoyed reading this article. Kiran Athar I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. We can think, You did this on purpose just to upset me! You are who you are. “My partner gets mad the same way as my ex.”. Loving someone, and continuing to love someone who will not love you back isn’t brave. “There’s nothing new with my love life. Tell them how much you love them and how grateful you are to have met them. Be patient. You can indirectly practice acceptance by saying to yourself a mantra: “I accept you. You are part of their world — and that should be enough. 1. No. Or we can choose to believe the best and think: Well, they must be having a difficult day and probably didn’t even realize they were being rude to me. Lachlan Brown Perhaps you’re thinking of flowers. We’ve just been going through such a tough transition to both of us working full-time, that I haven’t had time to clean up before you got here.”, Maybe your mother-in-law continues to criticize your cleaning skills every time she comes over, even though you've explained you are very busy right now. Instead of wishing she'd change, you can think to yourself, "It's okay for me to have imperfect cleaning skills and not meet her expectations. _g1.classList.remove('lazyload'); I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. Maybe something difficult is going on in their life. Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 47,598 times. You’re in it for the long run — there’s no point acting like a hormonal teenager who gets grumpy just because they don’t get a reply within five minutes. I’ll just surprise my NAME the same way I did with my ex.”. It doesn’t mean that they are willing to dedicate the energy and motivation to making the change. How to Stop Loving Someone Who Doesn't Love You. Even if you don’t feel the same way just yet, you still care about them. Lachlan graduated with a psychology degree in 2012. Because if your partner sees you doing your best, it motivates them to do the same. Assure them you don’t hate them. Hack Spirit is a blog by Lachlan Brown and shares practical tips and strategies to help you live a more mindful and awesome life. There are 14 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook. It's unrealistic to expect them to read your mind and know what you want without you telling them. — Don’t make them stay up late just to talk to you. Because life gets tough. If they see or hear other people insulting or mistreating you, they will step in to defend you. — What do they need the most right now? The former lasts longer and helps clean the air. 2. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/b\/ba\/Be-a-Gentleman-Step-7-Version-3.jpg\/v4-460px-Be-a-Gentleman-Step-7-Version-3.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/b\/ba\/Be-a-Gentleman-Step-7-Version-3.jpg\/aid195539-v4-728px-Be-a-Gentleman-Step-7-Version-3.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"

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